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June 29, 2019




For victims of past trauma or abuse, by far the most difficult thing to manage, is a marriage or close relationship. But we MUST be realistic about this. It will do us no good to try and minimize, justify or rationalize why we should stay in a partnership if it is clearly having a negative effect on us. We need to face the facts. Is this relationship working? Is this relationship causing us confusion, stress, anxiety, worry or fear? Are we clinging on to it because we simply don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings? Are we maintaining this relationship for financial reasons? Are we hanging on because we are terrified of being alone, or because we don’t want to admit that this relationship is not working for our benefit? Are we afraid of being judged by others? Are we too needy? Are we clutching at an illusion of our own making, writing a script of a bright and beautiful future together when in fact the rea...

May 31, 2019

Recovery from alcoholism means a change of mindset and it is usually the case that some serious life decisions need to be made. We alcoholics are by and large overly sensitive and letting go of people, places and things in our lives is uncomfortable to say the least, but it could mean the difference between staying sober or staying drunk. If we cling on to our old habits, behavioural patterns, reactions and responses, we stand very little chance of maintaining sobriety. Our personalities, amongst other things, need to change.

So, how do we let go? It basically means that the thoughts in our head need to alter. During early sobriety, we are all scared, vulnerable and needy. We are entering into new territory and we do not know what’s on the other side. Often, we will cling on to toxic situations in our lives, being a case of “better the devil we know than the devil we don’t”. This is dangerous alcoholic thinking and will keep us drunk in our minds, if not in actuality. Remember, being so...

August 29, 2018


1. Stay active.

Regular exercise is good for your physical and emotional health. Regular exercise works as well as medication to ease anxiety for some people. And it’s not just a short-term fix; you may experience anxiety relief for hours after working out. Just don’t overdo it. 15 – 30 minutes of muscular and cardio-vascular exercise each day should be enough.

2. Don’t drink alcohol.

Alcohol is a natural sedative. Drinking a glass of wine or a finger of whiskey when your nerves are shot may calm you at first. Once the buzz is over, however, anxiety may return with a vengeance. If you rely on alcohol to relieve anxiety instead of treating the root of the problem, you may develop alcohol dependence.

3. Stop smoking.

Smokers often reach for a cigarette during stressful times. Yet, like drinking alcohol, taking a drag on a cigarette when you’re stressed is a quick fix that may worsen anxiety over time. Research has shown that the earlier you start smoking in life, the hig...

September 19, 2016

I can help you as I have been there myself and here is my story. I want to help so if your story is somewhat similar we can relate so please don't hesitate to get in touch. It is not something to be ashamed of as most people make out. There is help out there and I can help.

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One 2 One Therapeutic Support is an international organization, offering help to clients worldwide through online sessions and also personally at our physical location in Cape Town, South Africa. All qualifications are under the auspices of the MHCPC (Manor House Centre for Psychotherapy and Counseling) and the BACP (British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy) in The United Kingdom and Great Britain. MHCPC UK registration no. 1131804.

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